Monday, July 23, 2012

The Art of Racing in the Rain


Dear Blog,
It has taken me a week to write this post. There's no craftiness here today-it was absent all week.

I don't understand Cancer. Why does IT make precious beings in our lives suffer, why does IT have to take things from you, without a care in the world? Why is IT the cause of countless questions from two boys whose parents really don't have logical answers? Cancer is bad and I don't like IT.

Don't be mistaken, Dear Blog, I understand that Cancer affects more than just dogs, and IT makes life difficult for so many family members when IT invades their loved ones. But Tulley, well, Tulley wasn't just a dog. He was our wedding gift to each other. He was our first child. (Our practice one before the two legged version came just two short years later.)

Although Cancer took our dog from us long before we were ready, IT can never take the memories away (glow and the dark skeleton shirts on little boys in the dark can me mistaken for predators) and IT can never steal life lessons already learned (you really can eat all your Easter candy in one sitting and not get sick!) and lessons to be learned (loyalty cannot be taken for granted).

There is a phenomenal book called The Art of Racing in the Rain and all I can say is, Dear Blog, that I'm looking forward to shaking Tulley's hand some day.
 
Signed,
Heartbroken

Tulsa Highwater Raleigh a.k.a Tulley
11/03/01 - 07/16/12

48 comments:

  1. Karen, my heart is breaking for you. Absolutely wrenching for you and your family. Our pain is still quite raw after losing Spencer and all I can say is, I totally understand my friend. I am so, so, utterly and deeply sorry for your loss. Much sympathy to you and your family - I hope that fond memories of Tulley are of some comfort. As far as I am concerned, there is no such thing as "just a dog" - people who say that "just don't understand".
    I started that book just before Spencer got sick but didn't finish it - I'll have to try reading it again :)
    Sending warm thoughts your way...

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  2. I grew up on a small farm and remember the pain of losing a beloved animal.. a horse I showed, her foal, two of the most loyal dogs in the world. My heart aches for you and your family at your loss! my condolences.

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  3. Karen I am so so sorry. I just lost my dog 3 1/2 weeks ago too and know exactly what you are going through. I will keep you in my prayers and am so very sad for you. I believe that God places our animals in our lives and he gave us that special love.

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  4. Karen, I'm so very sorry to read this post. Sending you, your hubby and your precious boys a big hug. I hope that Tulley's sweet memories can provide you with some peace.

    Lynn xx

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  5. Hi Karen...I'm so sorry to hear this... my heart goes to you and family.... I hope that those fond memories of Tulley give you some comfort... take my dear friend... sending my hugs to you... xoxo

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  6. Karen, my sympathy for your loss. Our four legged children have a special place in our hearts and it's hard when they are no longer with us. Tulley was truly lucky to have a wonderful and caring family. Sorry for your loss!

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  7. I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear sweet Tulley. You and your family will be in my prayers Karen. I wish I were there to give you a hug in person. Comfort comes in knowing he no longer suffers and in those memories you hold dear.

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  8. Oh Karen, I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet, beautiful boy. I hope the memories of Tulley help ease the pain and grief you are feeling right now. *hugs*

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  9. I'm sorry again for the loss of your gorgeous boy Tulley. I'm glad you read that book - it's a beautiful one and I love the thought that I'll meet up with Scout again one day too. Big huge hugs to you all and slobbery kisses from Atti and Jem.

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  10. I'm so sorry, Karen. Losing a loved one is such a challenge. It sounds like Tulley was a wonderful member of your family.

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  11. Such a beautful post Karen. I am so sorry for your loss, hugs to you and your family.

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  12. Oh Karen, I'm so sorry for your loss. Our pets, we love them so. We have a dog too, she's 9 and sometimes I get so sad because I know she won't be here forever it just breaks my heart. We don't have kids so she fills some of that piece in our hearts. I'm so sorry for your family, I know you'll all be sad for a while. Big hugs to you all.

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  13. Karen, We are so sorry..we know the heartbeat of losing furry friends to that dreaded IT. IT took both of our beloved Golden Retreivers. It was ruthless and senseless, they were only 5 yrs. old.

    We pray that your heart will once again be filled with the joy of a new furry friend.

    Praying for you...

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  14. I am so sad about this post, Karen! You express your heartfelt thoughts and emotions so touchingly and beautifully! I am keeping you and family in my thoughts and prayers! HUGS!

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  15. So so sorry Karen! My thoughts are with you, the boys and your husband! so so tough!

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  16. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Yes, they are just pets, but they love us unconditionally, and we love them too, and sure do miss them when they are gone. I believe that you will see him again on the other side, and I hope that we all will get to continue to have loving relationships with our pets again.

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  17. Oh Karen, you were on my mind today for some reason and now I guess I know why. It is absolutely heartbreaking to lose a furry friend, especially one who was so obviously a part of your family and so incredibly loved. Sending you big hugs and hoping that you will find comfort in your wonderful memories of Tulley.

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  18. Oh, Karen, I'm so, so sorry. My heart goes out to you for your loss. Our pup is such a treasure to our family, that I can't even imagine your pain. Thinking of you.

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  19. it's heartbreaking reading this post, Karen. sending you big hugs. i know how cancer can take away your beloved family mercilessly and i can't imagine how Tulley had been tortured by it. so sorry for your loss. you and your family are in my thoughts.

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  20. Oh Karen, I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost my best friend and beloved dog also to cancer. Your post has brought tears to my eyes as I remember when I had to put my Dutchess to sleep. I too hope that one day I will see her again. I will have to find that book to read. It sounds like a good one.

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  21. Oh Karen, I am so sorry. Losing a pet is like losing a member of the family, and it is hard! I feel heartbroken over your loss. Cancer sucks. I'm thinking of you and your family...*hugs*

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  22. It warmed my heart to read your post about Tulley...because I know we will all shake our beloved pets hand one day...and they will marvel deep down in thier heart that they are using their paws and long tongues as they always felt that they should have when they were dogs...and knowing that makes their passing a little bit better for us that are left....Aunt Jean

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  23. Losing a beloved four-legged family member is one of the saddest things we have to deal with. I've been through it several times and it never gets even one bit easier. If anything, it gets harder. And that's as it should be. The good news is that God's view of the importance of animals is very evident in Genesis 9 where He outlines His first covenant with man. It most definitely includes the animals! And to make sure we get it, He emphasizes this inclusion no less than 5 times. I do believe you will see Tully again . . . and there will be no more sorrow and no more sighing. Only joy.

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  24. Oh Karen...my thoughts are with you and your boys.

    hang in there.

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  25. Oh, honey, I am SO SORRY!!! That pain is one like no other! I am crying with you!

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  26. I am so sorry for your loss. I, too, lost a loved 4 legged child from cancer and it pains me every day still. Cancer SUCKS!

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  27. Oh, Karen, I am so sad and sorry for you and your family. Tully's pictures are very precious.

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  28. So sorry to hear about your loss. Take the time you need to heal. That really is a wonderful book.

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  29. Oh Karen, I'm so sorry! :(
    Losing a family member is one of the toughest things we ever have to deal with (IMHO). I hope you have lots of sweet memories that you can hold on to.
    Sending lots of hugs your way to you and your family...
    {HUGS}
    xxx

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  30. I am so sorry to hear about your precious family member Karen. You will certainly be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  31. what a handsome fella - he was a really lucky guy to have you as his family.

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  32. I'm so sorry for your loss Karen. Nothing can be said to take away the pain. My thoughts are with you and your family. Hugs to the boys.

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  33. I'm so sorry for your loss Karen.
    Beautiful and moving post today, thank you.

    Hugs~

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  34. Pets are part of the family, and I also have a fondness for dogs. I am sorry for your loss, and please know that you are in my thoughts.

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  35. My heart is aching for you, Karen. Tulley was so lucky to belong to such a loving family. Lots of hugs and prayers to you and your family during this difficult time.

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  36. Awww, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Reading your post brought a tear to my eye because I know we will have to make a difficult decision about our dog soon. Hugs to you and your family.

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  37. so sorry to hear your sadness.
    It's truly sad for the loss.
    Life still has to carry on and hope all goes well.

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  38. I'm so sorry for your loss, Karen! My heart aches for you and reading this post made me teary. Thank you for sharing your heart and the sweet photos of Tulley.

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  39. With sincere sympathies my friend...cancer is evil. I hate it. Much love from me...to you and your loved ones. Be well. xx

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  40. So sorry to hear this, Karen. He seems like such a sweet soul. Losing a pet is never easy and affects you much more than you think. They're part of your family.

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  41. Awww, Karen, my heart breaks for you. You and your family will be in my prayers. May your memories of sweet Tulley bring you some peace and comfort during this difficult time.

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  42. sorry for your loss...may his happy memories fill your days.

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  43. Big hugs to you and your family Karen. So sorry for your loss... loved that book... appropriate for the moment. I have friends with cancer right now and can just say, cancer sucks.

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  44. Oh Karen, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't say I understand what you are going through because I haven't lost a fur baby yet but I do have a pup that is getting older (she turned 9 this year). She is a chocolate lab and from what I have experienced with others that had labs, they don't live much past 11 or 12. She has been the best dog I could have ever asked for. So patient with my kids and always so happy. I love that picture of your pup, so cute!!! My thoughts are with you and your family!! Hugs to you! :-(

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  45. What a beautiful pup you were blessed with for so long. He is now romping around heaven feeling no pain and all joy.

    You know I'm thinking of you guys.

    If someone hasn't posted it already - another fantastic book is "A Dog's Purpose" Try and get your hands on that. I still have to read the one you mentioned and I KNOW we'll meet them again! I can't wait!

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  46. Oh Karen, I hope you don't mind me stirring up emotions by commenting late on this post but I just had to say what a truly sad post you had to write and I feel your pain through your writing.
    I'm hoping as the time passes the heartache eases for you and you can look back and feel blessed to have known such a good friend and given him a wonderful home.
    Jenny x
    I need to look into that book as well :0)

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  47. Oh Karen, I know I am several weeks late, but I am sending some hugs in this comment. We lost our sweet pup when he was 7 to lymphoma, so I imagine you are feeling much the same that I did back then. I still think about my sweet Bailey all the time - even 6 years later.

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